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What We’re Trying to Do Here

What We’re Trying to Do Here


In the past, allowing comments on these blog posts turned into a marathon effort at removing unwanted stuff that had nothing to do with the good conversation I was trying to encourage, placed by spambots because “they could.”  So my web guy and I reluctantly closed comments to stay ahead of all that.  Now, there ‘s a better way to deal with that scourge, but it involves a small step from you.

  • The intent of these posts is to encourage sincere conversation about the challenges of living this stage of life well and to problem solve regarding that.  That’s all.

  • Comments will be reviewed before publication.  The focus is on providing a full range of opionions and ideas, but we do not tolerate fake stuff, incendiary garbage that’s hurtful, harmful, or just plain mean, and useless ranting.  This needs to be a civil conversation. (True all the time, but insisted upon here….) Differing opinions are great, but no sniping or snarkiness.

  • If you just want to “lurk” (not provide a comment) that’s okay, but it’s more satisfying to have a voice.

  • This site is not focused on making money or “building a platform.”  It’s to get us talking about what this stage of life is like and what we’ve learned collectively about doing it well.

  • If, in the future, there are other ways to be involved in wherever this goes, you’ll be invited via posts here to do that when the time comes.

  • Please do comment.  We all have different experiences, perspectives, and issues.  We can learn so much by talking with each other.

Welcome to Real Retirement Planning!

Welcome to Real Retirement Planning!

Yes, you need money to be able to retire. But you need a whole lot more and it’s about time somebody starting blogging about that. So here I am, at your service. My name is Mary Lloyd and my mission is to make sure people live the years after retirement on fire and on purpose. You don’t have to save the world–unless you really want to. But you do have to do things that are really important to you if you want to have a good life once it’s time for “the good life.”

I write, speak and teach about this topic because we all need to plan for more than bunco parties and time with the grandkids once we no longer need to show up for work everyday.  My intention with this blog is to get people thinking about retirement differently–and more completely.

As a culture, we tend to look at it as a benevolent form of termination. You are done. You will still have money in the bank every month, but you don’t have to do anything to earn it any more. The typical reaction to this is to claim the right to do nothing with gusto–and then jam anything you can find into the day so you can brag about how busy you are.

What we need to do instead is think about how we really WANT to spend our time. And then to follow through to make those things a major part of everyday life. Leisure is only pleasant as an antidote for work. We need to find the things we believe in strongly enough that we want to work on them “just because.”

Mining Silver–that is my hope. That each of us finds our own unique value–our silver– and uncovers how to use it after work becomes an option.

Having enough money is a key piece of living the “retirement” stage of life well. But having enough meaning is even more crucial. That is what we will explore on this blog.